Monday, June 20, 2005

More on Change

Change, it’s something I’ve probably written about a good bit on this journal.  It’s something we can be sure of in life.  I’ve been noticing how our relationships have changed.  It seems many of our friends who are couples are going through changes.  After years their relationships are changing.  People are breaking up all around us.  Here we are the new couple and everyone around us seems to be coming to the end in their relationships.  I’m still hopeful for many of them, the ones that I can see something good in, the ones I feel they can work past their differences.  I also know from experience that some times loving means letting go, no matter how hard that may seem.  It’s a lesson I didn’t want to learn but did.  So yes change is one certainty in our world.  I know this is really hard for Mike.   I can’t really tell you how he feels only how he comes across about this.  He said it was hard with us just starting out and seeing others that had worked for so long giving up.  I think he feels fear for us.  I try to encourage him and tell him we are just us, not anyone else.  Time will always tell.  We just have to know.  I got home today and finally made one change for the day anyway.  I went jogging again.  It was a great jog.  I jogged for an hour at least.  I ran on the river it was nice finding my own place, this is one thing I've been searching for my quiet place in my head.  Mike's great, he's very supportive.   I keep things bottled up sometimes, and it's hard for me to let some things out.  I'm glad he called me on it today.  All and all I had a really nice day.  I felt really good all day.  Very good, very confident.  Just a all around good day.  Thank you God!  Bless me a lot tommorrow too!  Hope all is well with everyone! 

6 comments:

ksquester said...

"To everything turn, turn turn, There is a season, turn, turn, turn".........Too many people nowadays opt out because they simply CAN. But they are no better off in their next relationship....they bring the same set of problems. Knowing when to listen and when to turn a deaf ear is important and knowing that "this too shall pass" leads to better days.  

csandhollow said...

Everyone changes. If you really want to make a relationship last then you must accept that there will be change. It is far too easy to say ok I (or you) have changed and so it is over.

cubbycub said...

While I am not in a relationship, I have seen the changes that all relationships have gone thru and we all change and things change,wheather it be career,a move or a family situation..it needs to be acknowledged and things can be worked out if both parties want too,,but as you say sometime su must let love go...

eternallife23 said...

The good thing though is that I see that you have great communication with each other. You see what is happening around you and you talk about it. That is very important. Don't bottle things up that will make you sick. Let it out and talk with someone if not him find someone else to vent with but don't bottle it up.
Hugs *Louise*

deabvt said...

You`re blessed!
V

onemoretina said...

    You said exactly the right thing to Mike.   Yes, as a couple you are unique, and can't judge your relationship against anyone elses.  That is such a reassuring thing to know, don't you think ?  I am new to your site, and have enjoyed reading your entries.  I'll be back!  Tina    http://journals.aol.com/onemoretina/Ridealongwithme